Client reviews

I want you to know how much value you brought me AND my relationship in 5 weeks. I can't even remember if I experienced any skepticism at the possibility of 5 weeks' efficacy, because if I ever did I have since forgotten and it has been replaced entirely by our time together and all that I have begun to stretch and feel into in my own experience. 

Like a cat sitting on a lap, purring and being pet in a warm sun beam, taking a stretch here and there– that's what I would equate to my felt sense of our 5 weeks. 

Our work, centered around Betty Martin's concept she calls The Wheel of Consent, was perfectly "unsexy" in that it wasn't mysterious, required no pretending or role play on its surface, and instead required total clarity of what you want and what the intentions behind any interaction are. And in that, it has helped to reframe what I believe is sexy. 

The work we did together was so much more than sexual awakening, or sexual re-awakening.  On the sexual front, we worked to deconstruct the elements keeping me from pleasure seeking, and that has been incredibly liberating. 

The most value I feel like I derived from the 5 weeks is how much the work helped me call up more of my own awareness and find more language for what I find, validating my desires and my aversions and giving me language to discuss both more openly, challenging my subconscious need to do the emotional labor for my partner before I've even uttered words about my own desire. It has challenged both of us to take ownership of our own "sexual readiness," taking the burden off my partner to know how to approach me when he has desire on his heart.  I got to see my partner interact in this new world and observe him through this new lens of my own awareness. You call it being in my own power. Like I said, it mostly feels like just being fully awake -- taking all of that energy I was subconsciously putting towards making sure everything is okay all of the time and instead turning it inward to know and be aware of how I feel about something at any given time, especially when it's telling me something is not okay. 

Thanks again, SO MUCH, River. To know you, to know you are working to bring these kinds of revelations to people like me in our community is so inspiring and I hope for and look forward to any ways I can help to get the word out about your important work.

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River Roaring

I am a skeptic. I am also fairly self-aware. I have worked with really good therapists in the past (and the present) who have helped me in many ways. I didn’t believe in “light bulb” moments; I thought that only happened in books and movies.

I went into this Conscious Uncoupling program simply thinking I would at least learn something new about myself. I had only had a few relationships, and they all ended in the same drawn-out, exhausting, heartbroken way. I wanted to break the pattern, so I gave this a chance.

Through this program and the tender yet firm guidance of River, I have changed my life.

Let me say that again - I have changed my life.

It’s no joke, and I’m not exaggerating. Go through this program with an open mind, and change your own life. I can’t explain exactly why this program is different, but it is, and it is worth it.”        ~ Raina Harris

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River Roaring

I feel like I’ve learned so much from you in such a short amount of time. I have felt such an awakening since our last session. It’s like finally remembering something that had just been on the tip of my tongue for a long time. Having this language of giving, receiving, servicing, and accepting service made such a difference in how I approach my husband. I’m regaining a lot of confidence. Really looking forward to our next appointment.

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River Roaring

This program is much more than sexual. It's about how you connect with others and yourself.

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River Roaring

River's program is much more than a sexually-related subject. There's even more to it than how humans relate with one another. It's about how you connect with yourself.  I truly believe the lessons should be mandatory when sexual anatomy and education is introduced in high school.

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River Roaring

It's knowledge changes your life as every change should be, inside out. I'm forever grateful for it!

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River Roaring

I just wanted to express my appreciation for your help this weekend. Your warmth and enthusiasm put me at ease and made it comfortable for me to open up. Again, thank you very much and I look forward to seeing you soon.

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River Roaring

My girlfriend and I got to know one another much better and spent many sexually intimate hours together. It was wonderful to be with her.  These intimate times with her will be treasured forever. This is a unique experience for me, something I have awaited my entire life to enjoy.  It is like nothing I have ever experienced.

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River Roaring

I appreciate your helping me to achieve this intimate relationship. Without your caring and nurturing this beautiful experience would not have been possible. Your nurturing of me supported this. I am most appreciative. Thank you for being so caring and giving. I really appreciate your confidence and support. I'm starting to feel a fresh sense of optimism about my future. I think my sexual issues were/are causing a larger portion of my pain than I had even anticipated. I think the work we do together is going to improve my life a lot, it already has. Everyone should have someone like you that they can talk to and work on this stuff with.

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River Roaring

I want to thank you for all that you have done for me. Not only by doing your part, but the way you have done it. All those little details, compromises and efforts among other things I have noticed you've done in our time working together... It has been a process, step by step but firm progress, that has brought more self confidence to my person and made my life much more joyful.

Thank you for existing.

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River Roaring

You have no idea how much I appreciate your work/vocation and profession in general. Thank you so much. ... I got in my truck and realized I needed to move the mirror because I was sitting taller. That's how much of a weight you helped me remove from my shoulders!

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River Roaring

I appreciate your helping me to achieve my new intimate relationship. These intimate times with her will be treasured forever. Without your caring and nurturing this beautiful experience would not have been possible for me. I thank you for that.

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River Roaring

I am so proud of myself! I arranged a safe ... encounter and actually pulled it off.  It was fun, liberating, and a little surreal.  I was myself and in the moment.  I engaged the communication and breathing skills we have worked on. No regrets or negative feelings. Not sure whether it is something I will do again, but probably yes.  Finally, a ..... Finally! Thanks for giving me the insight, skills, and confidence.

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River Roaring

Thank you for an incredible and enlightening session. Your insights into my problems are allowing me to move closer to finding the answers I seek. Our experience together was one of those gifts that is rarely granted to an individual. You are indeed a treasure.

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River Roaring

What occurred between us today is a life altering experience.  I am so excited to move forward with you on this journey.  You have answered questions that I have been holding on to for forty years.

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River Roaring

I realized I have been directing my energy out instead of within.  Amazing difference! … I’m looking forward to the next time we can get together!

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River Roaring

Just when I think that our sessions cannot get any better something like today happens.  I was in a state of bliss - another world.  The ways you have helped me grow into my sexuality and improve mentally are astounding.  Your presence is always warm, comforting and full of positive energy.  You always know exactly what I need.

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River Roaring

It was intense for me to allow myself to be vulnerable and surrender fully to you… I was/am so amazed how much orgasmic blissful energy it stimulated.  Wow!  Thank you.   I don’t recall feeling anything that intense for a long time…maybe ever. :) 

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River Roaring

I think it will take a bit to process the experience … I was very relaxed afterward … I had a very restful long sleep too, which I do not get to enjoy often… Thank you so much!

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River Roaring